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Post by chainbreaker on Jul 6, 2017 13:16:32 GMT -5
i hate my summer job and i wanna quit but there's this one handsome nice guy that makes me not want to quit as much what do i do Hi Friend, Hope you are well and whatever part of the world you are in the weather is treating you nicely. Although a few people have mentioned leave your summer job, as bad as it may be, in the longlong run, it wouldn't really be worth it. Lets look at it from the outside looking in. Although it may suck, its only one summer. It would probably be best to complete the summers worth of work for a variety of reasons: - Your next Job interview won't be a "why did you leave", "why did you quit", "tell me negative things", it will be a "oh great, a nice summer job that you completed to you fullest, and left when the job finished". It will make you look much more committed to work!. - Steady income over summer! Having no money sucks and quitting your job and going to *no steady income* also sucks, it can be quite demoralising on a subconcious level. - Its easier to find a job when you have one, then when you don't. I don't know how this works. Unfortuantly. But its true. If you feel like you need to leave, then nobody is stopping you in the entire world and I for one totally have your back. Though it might be worth finding a different job for the rest of summer and if that is the case,it will be much easier if you already have a job. Then you can use great excuses like "i'm looking to progress my career".. "i would love to take on more of a challenge" etcetc. As for the crying in front of everyone... so what? If anything it shows you are human and thats great. Unfortunatly I haven't cried in approx 12 years and I don't know why. Do not let other people label you for your (totally) natural emotions. Sometimes it is very relaxing and relieving to have a good cry and let off some negative steam. Own it. u rock gurl. now for #handsomeboi, the good thing here is that the nice gentleman is not exclusive to the work place, if you left he wouldn't marty mcfly out of existence. (i hope, but if that is the case then assume he is your son from the future and stay away). Relationships and stuff can be awkward, difficult, embarassing but most importantly very emotionally fufilling. Not even on a spend the rest of my life with them vibe, but just finding someone you enjoy spending your time with. I would reccomend the most simple approach. Be yourself (As stated before, ur rocking it). Simply ask to hang out sometime and take it from there. The worst that can happen is that nothing happens. There is always handsome boy number 2 out there if nothing does happen. I hope you can take some comfort in my words and if you would like me to elaborate on something pls feel free to quote a sentence or something and i will see it in my notifications. My inbox is always super open about everything and anything. u rock lots of love, cal
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Post by Zeke on Jul 6, 2017 14:32:51 GMT -5
man, I fucking love Chainy. He says everything I think
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Post by Velocity on Jul 6, 2017 15:23:30 GMT -5
i hate my summer job and i wanna quit but there's this one handsome nice guy that makes me not want to quit as much what do i do Hi Friend, Hope you are well and whatever part of the world you are in the weather is treating you nicely. Although a few people have mentioned leave your summer job, as bad as it may be, in the longlong run, it wouldn't really be worth it. Lets look at it from the outside looking in. Although it may suck, its only one summer. It would probably be best to complete the summers worth of work for a variety of reasons: - Your next Job interview won't be a "why did you leave", "why did you quit", "tell me negative things", it will be a "oh great, a nice summer job that you completed to you fullest, and left when the job finished". It will make you look much more committed to work!. - Steady income over summer! Having no money sucks and quitting your job and going to *no steady income* also sucks, it can be quite demoralising on a subconcious level. - Its easier to find a job when you have one, then when you don't. I don't know how this works. Unfortuantly. But its true. If you feel like you need to leave, then nobody is stopping you in the entire world and I for one totally have your back. Though it might be worth finding a different job for the rest of summer and if that is the case,it will be much easier if you already have a job. Then you can use great excuses like "i'm looking to progress my career".. "i would love to take on more of a challenge" etcetc. As for the crying in front of everyone... so what? If anything it shows you are human and thats great. Unfortunatly I haven't cried in approx 12 years and I don't know why. Do not let other people label you for your (totally) natural emotions. Sometimes it is very relaxing and relieving to have a good cry and let off some negative steam. Own it. u rock gurl. now for #handsomeboi, the good thing here is that the nice gentleman is not exclusive to the work place, if you left he wouldn't marty mcfly out of existence. (i hope, but if that is the case then assume he is your son from the future and stay away). Relationships and stuff can be awkward, difficult, embarassing but most importantly very emotionally fufilling. Not even on a spend the rest of my life with them vibe, but just finding someone you enjoy spending your time with. I would reccomend the most simple approach. Be yourself (As stated before, ur rocking it). Simply ask to hang out sometime and take it from there. The worst that can happen is that nothing happens. There is always handsome boy number 2 out there if nothing does happen. I hope you can take some comfort in my words and if you would like me to elaborate on something pls feel free to quote a sentence or something and i will see it in my notifications. My inbox is always super open about everything and anything. u rock lots of love, cal /problemsolved What a great post chainy! This is incredible advice.
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Post by windsofdismay on Jul 8, 2017 6:45:58 GMT -5
i hate my summer job and i wanna quit but there's this one handsome nice guy that makes me not want to quit as much what do i do Hi Friend, Hope you are well and whatever part of the world you are in the weather is treating you nicely. Although a few people have mentioned leave your summer job, as bad as it may be, in the longlong run, it wouldn't really be worth it. Lets look at it from the outside looking in. Although it may suck, its only one summer. It would probably be best to complete the summers worth of work for a variety of reasons: - Your next Job interview won't be a "why did you leave", "why did you quit", "tell me negative things", it will be a "oh great, a nice summer job that you completed to you fullest, and left when the job finished". It will make you look much more committed to work!. - Steady income over summer! Having no money sucks and quitting your job and going to *no steady income* also sucks, it can be quite demoralising on a subconcious level. - Its easier to find a job when you have one, then when you don't. I don't know how this works. Unfortuantly. But its true. If you feel like you need to leave, then nobody is stopping you in the entire world and I for one totally have your back. Though it might be worth finding a different job for the rest of summer and if that is the case,it will be much easier if you already have a job. Then you can use great excuses like "i'm looking to progress my career".. "i would love to take on more of a challenge" etcetc. As for the crying in front of everyone... so what? If anything it shows you are human and thats great. Unfortunatly I haven't cried in approx 12 years and I don't know why. Do not let other people label you for your (totally) natural emotions. Sometimes it is very relaxing and relieving to have a good cry and let off some negative steam. Own it. u rock gurl. now for #handsomeboi, the good thing here is that the nice gentleman is not exclusive to the work place, if you left he wouldn't marty mcfly out of existence. (i hope, but if that is the case then assume he is your son from the future and stay away). Relationships and stuff can be awkward, difficult, embarassing but most importantly very emotionally fufilling. Not even on a spend the rest of my life with them vibe, but just finding someone you enjoy spending your time with. I would reccomend the most simple approach. Be yourself (As stated before, ur rocking it). Simply ask to hang out sometime and take it from there. The worst that can happen is that nothing happens. There is always handsome boy number 2 out there if nothing does happen. I hope you can take some comfort in my words and if you would like me to elaborate on something pls feel free to quote a sentence or something and i will see it in my notifications. My inbox is always super open about everything and anything. u rock lots of love, cal alright i didn't quit (¿?yet?¿) because all of those are actual good points to take into account, thank you for the effort man. also on friday i didn't feel as bad as i did during the rest of the week anymore, so we'll see how it's going next week i guess and i can't believe how nice all of you are, thanks a lot
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Post by Velocity on Aug 28, 2017 12:27:17 GMT -5
My wife just got laid off from her dream job. She had only been there 6 months, but it was such a stressful process getting into the company...and then a few months in they decide to do a re-org, and her whole team got cut today. This has been sitting over them for 3 months and to have it end with her losing her job is just the most crushing feeling.
I'm sick.
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Post by Zeke on Aug 28, 2017 13:16:35 GMT -5
My wife just got laid off from her dream job. She had only been there 6 months, but it was such a stressful process getting into the company...and then a few months in they decide to do a re-org, and her whole team got cut today. This has been sitting over them for 3 months and to have it end with her losing her job is just the most crushing feeling. I'm sick. Man I am really sorry to hear. At least it's no longer just hanging over them anymore, and the uncertainty is over, so that's a bit of a silver lining. I hope she will find something she is equally enthusiastic about soon.
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Post by Velocity on Aug 29, 2017 14:51:07 GMT -5
My wife just got laid off from her dream job. She had only been there 6 months, but it was such a stressful process getting into the company...and then a few months in they decide to do a re-org, and her whole team got cut today. This has been sitting over them for 3 months and to have it end with her losing her job is just the most crushing feeling. I'm sick. Man I am really sorry to hear. At least it's no longer just hanging over them anymore, and the uncertainty is over, so that's a bit of a silver lining. I hope she will find something she is equally enthusiastic about soon. Yea that's definitely a positive. The waiting and the unknown has been brutal too. She's taking it much better than I thought, but I also think she's trying to force some positivity so she can find a new job quickly and not have a mental lull. She's a champ.
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Post by windsofdismay on Apr 21, 2018 16:46:56 GMT -5
hi how the fuck do i handle the girl my bf had sex with once being around us all the time because they work together and her always saying stupid mean shit to/about me because she's jealous of me?
like literally she'll be working, serving customers and then stare at me like I'm the devil or we'll go out and she'll tell people I'm a slut or when my boyfriend had to go to the hospital to get his stitches redone and I posted a pic of us in the hospital in my insta story she was like "it's probably even your fault he hurt himself" when i was the one who had called the ambulance the night before and spared him from death cause he hit a vein and had already lost too much blood or when i play a song at the bar they work at it doesn't matter what song it is she'll hate it and be like "oh thank god it's over" afterwards it just makes me really sad and whenever it happens i just want to cry and idk what to do
i asked my bf and all he said was oh don't worry we all know she's a jealous bitch and like yeh we know but does it make me less sad? no
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Post by SHIRT on Apr 21, 2018 16:50:28 GMT -5
hi how the fuck do i handle the girl my bf had sex with once being around us all the time because they work together and her always saying stupid mean shit to/about me because she's jealous of me? like literally she'll be working, serving customers and then stare at me like I'm the devil or we'll go out and she'll tell people I'm a slut or when my boyfriend had to go to the hospital to get his stitches redone and I posted a pic of us in the hospital in my insta story she was like "it's probably even your fault he hurt himself" when i was the one who had called the ambulance the night before and spared him from death cause he hit a vein and had already lost too much blood or when i play a song at the bar they work at it doesn't matter what song it is she'll hate it and be like "oh thank god it's over" afterwards it just makes me really sad and whenever it happens i just want to cry and idk what to do i asked my bf and all he said was oh don't worry we all know she's a jealous bitch and like yeh we know but does it make me less sad? no for extra information about the situation, did you or your bf or your friends ever call her out on how shitty she is being?
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Post by Calvinball on Apr 21, 2018 20:32:45 GMT -5
hi how the fuck do i handle the girl my bf had sex with once being around us all the time because they work together and her always saying stupid mean shit to/about me because she's jealous of me? like literally she'll be working, serving customers and then stare at me like I'm the devil or we'll go out and she'll tell people I'm a slut or when my boyfriend had to go to the hospital to get his stitches redone and I posted a pic of us in the hospital in my insta story she was like "it's probably even your fault he hurt himself" when i was the one who had called the ambulance the night before and spared him from death cause he hit a vein and had already lost too much blood or when i play a song at the bar they work at it doesn't matter what song it is she'll hate it and be like "oh thank god it's over" afterwards it just makes me really sad and whenever it happens i just want to cry and idk what to do i asked my bf and all he said was oh don't worry we all know she's a jealous bitch and like yeh we know but does it make me less sad? no I would just try to minimize contact as much as possible, if it's a work situation I understand that can be hard. Block her on social media and avoid going out with her. Sorry if that doesn't seem very helpful, it's for me to know more without knowing the nuances of the situation and the relationships between all parties. I do know that 10 years ago I would of said confront her and get in her face blah blah blah, nowadays I tend to try to find a more diplomatic and civil approach to conflict resolution.
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Post by windsofdismay on Apr 21, 2018 23:22:50 GMT -5
hi how the fuck do i handle the girl my bf had sex with once being around us all the time because they work together and her always saying stupid mean shit to/about me because she's jealous of me? like literally she'll be working, serving customers and then stare at me like I'm the devil or we'll go out and she'll tell people I'm a slut or when my boyfriend had to go to the hospital to get his stitches redone and I posted a pic of us in the hospital in my insta story she was like "it's probably even your fault he hurt himself" when i was the one who had called the ambulance the night before and spared him from death cause he hit a vein and had already lost too much blood or when i play a song at the bar they work at it doesn't matter what song it is she'll hate it and be like "oh thank god it's over" afterwards it just makes me really sad and whenever it happens i just want to cry and idk what to do i asked my bf and all he said was oh don't worry we all know she's a jealous bitch and like yeh we know but does it make me less sad? no for extra information about the situation, did you or your bf or your friends ever call her out on how shitty she is being? Bf tells her all the time
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Post by windsofdismay on Apr 21, 2018 23:25:08 GMT -5
hi how the fuck do i handle the girl my bf had sex with once being around us all the time because they work together and her always saying stupid mean shit to/about me because she's jealous of me? like literally she'll be working, serving customers and then stare at me like I'm the devil or we'll go out and she'll tell people I'm a slut or when my boyfriend had to go to the hospital to get his stitches redone and I posted a pic of us in the hospital in my insta story she was like "it's probably even your fault he hurt himself" when i was the one who had called the ambulance the night before and spared him from death cause he hit a vein and had already lost too much blood or when i play a song at the bar they work at it doesn't matter what song it is she'll hate it and be like "oh thank god it's over" afterwards it just makes me really sad and whenever it happens i just want to cry and idk what to do i asked my bf and all he said was oh don't worry we all know she's a jealous bitch and like yeh we know but does it make me less sad? no I would just try to minimize contact as much as possible, if it's a work situation I understand that can be hard. Block her on social media and avoid going out with her. Sorry if that doesn't seem very helpful, it's for me to know more without knowing the nuances of the situation and the relationships between all parties. I do know that 10 years ago I would of said confront her and get in her face blah blah blah, nowadays I tend to try to find a more diplomatic and civil approach to conflict resolution. i already unfollowed her, dont wanna block her completely off i think but i cant avoid going out with her, its a really small town and if you wanna get drunk you kinda just have to accept seeing everyone you know whether you like them or not. also i don't want to stop visiting my bf at his workplace just because she's being a cunt there? if that makes sense?
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Post by Zeke on Apr 22, 2018 2:47:23 GMT -5
for extra information about the situation, did you or your bf or your friends ever call her out on how shitty she is being? Bf tells her all the time What about you? I think transparency is the key as long as everyone is mature enough. Have you ever gone up to her one-on-one asking "why are you being a little shit to me all the time? I never did anything to you". She is likely to keep doing it if she feels that you don't say anything. I don't know what sorta person you are but sometimes having a snarky response is also a pretty good way to shut someone up because nobody likes being humiliated, so she'd stop at some point.
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Post by SHIRT on Apr 22, 2018 13:14:43 GMT -5
Bf tells her all the time What about you? I think transparency is the key as long as everyone is mature enough. Have you ever gone up to her one-on-one asking "why are you being a little shit to me all the time? I never did anything to you". She is likely to keep doing it if she feels that you don't say anything. I don't know what sorta person you are but sometimes having a snarky response is also a pretty good way to shut someone up because nobody likes being humiliated, so she'd stop at some point. yes! I agree with this. no one likes embarrassment especially in front of their peers. she might just stop doing what she's doing. you could also become her best friend, Ive had friends do this with their enemies just so they can hang out with their friends peacefully. I use to live in a very small town too and understand how hard it can be to see someone everyday thats so menacing towards you.
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Post by chocollama on Apr 28, 2018 1:44:14 GMT -5
hi how the fuck do i handle the girl my bf had sex with once being around us all the time because they work together and her always saying stupid mean shit to/about me because she's jealous of me? like literally she'll be working, serving customers and then stare at me like I'm the devil or we'll go out and she'll tell people I'm a slut or when my boyfriend had to go to the hospital to get his stitches redone and I posted a pic of us in the hospital in my insta story she was like "it's probably even your fault he hurt himself" when i was the one who had called the ambulance the night before and spared him from death cause he hit a vein and had already lost too much blood or when i play a song at the bar they work at it doesn't matter what song it is she'll hate it and be like "oh thank god it's over" afterwards it just makes me really sad and whenever it happens i just want to cry and idk what to do i asked my bf and all he said was oh don't worry we all know she's a jealous bitch and like yeh we know but does it make me less sad? no Maybe not the response anyone wants to hear, but this comes from growing up with a sister that's toxic in a similar way. Maybe things won't get better any time soon. Maybe pointing out their behavior will make that young lady dig in her heels and hit harder.My sister was adopted out of a bad situation and came with a lot of baggage. We were both young (and six months apart so we went through school together in the same classes), and so I was her social punching bag for 10+ years. She was so starved for attention that she spent most of her time making up stories about me and my family. "My mom is a witch", "my dad beats me sometimes", "my brothers tore up my homework". Even just a year ago I heard about one that involved me standing over her bed in the middle of the night with a knife. Oh yeah, and I had red eyes. Fuck my life. Basically, it just took time. I had to slowly separate myself from her and everything to do with her. People used to ask "How's your sister?" just to hear me say "How should I know?" because that was just hilarious to them. I don't want to be mean, but it just wore me out over the years and I wish I hadn't waited so long to stop associating with her. Hard to do in a family, but it can be done. Long story short, I have no real good advise besides avoiding her. Like, make it a point that you don't give a fuck (even if that shit hurts bc it definitely does, and still does sometimes), and eventually life and circumstance will allow you to move on. Good luck, dude.
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